Our behaviour is our best attempt at the given time to fulfill one of 5 basic needs....survival, love and belonging, empowerment/control, freedom and/or fun.
What impacts our behaviour is how we think and how we feel.........about ourselves, about others in our lives, about the situation we find ourselves in, about what life has served up.
Past experiences trigger reactions
Past experiences thrust us into the familiar dance steps
Past experiences shroud us from new perspectives, from a new way of seeing.
Old wounds refreshed and uncared for seep into the present and are revealed in the kind of decisions we make
Life can leave us with two scraped knees and a dislocated soul can't it? It's safer to stay under the covers sound asleep or numbed by vices, disconnected to the rest of the world. Thats the choice.........to remain asleep and safe or to be self-medicated or to be wide awake and vulnerably out there giving it our best....
Action never happens without a thread to thought or feelings. Even if you're the Prime Minister. Even if you're an elected official sitting in opposition vying for the leadership ring. Accumulated unreflected experiences leave their mark on the manner with which one leads their life. Knowing this, and knowing that these men seem to be quite intelligent, why are they so unaware of the ramifications of their actions on others and on their own lives?
When someone gets into a shoving match with their own psyche, can any bystander stop the insanity? We seem to have elected a bunch of very wounded needy people intent on fulfilling their own needs instead of rising to the occasion and recognizing that their behaviour is impacting a whole nation.
Oh, great. Oh, Canada.
Can someone up in Ottawa please give these boys a mirror to look at? A whole lot of reflection is needed............and some psychotherapy to help them see their wrinkled, beard stubbled faces are those of ADULTS??
8 comments:
i love how your labels have bull-shit and politics side by side....
hope you are doing ok
paul...funny how that happened.
i'm channeling some accumulated anger into my political editorials this week....it's good to displace it somewhere, with a little humour of course. I have a few more ideas simmering in my head tied to this unprecedented event.....
This country is going down the toilet with respect to the lack of leadership. Lucky us, the PM is speaking to the nation tonight. Gee, I wonder if he will take any ownership on the state of affairs? I will be very surprised. He wouldn't know humility if it bit him in the arse.
I am truly taken by your keep perception into the working of how our thoughts determine so much about the decisions we make as humans. Are a psychologist, if not, have you considered being one? You always make me think:)
I had to laugh when I read the last part. I think however that most politicians everywhere have the same traits
m2p....i wish i had made up this theory and published it! I was referring to William Glasser's work, Choice theory/Reality therapy. YOu may be interested in learning about his theories and approaches given the work you do.
I don't have my doctorate, but do have my Master's in Counselling and Assessment, with a background in Developmental Psychology and Psychometry. I have taught quite a bit too...mainly the frontline staff who work with people on social assistance. I have also taught psychology courses at the local community college. most recently I taught a crisis counselling applied course at the university here. I guess you could divide my job into three categories....counselling, assessment (standardized testing as well as assessment through counselling) and facilitating/coaching. They all interest me, but would love to have enough schooling behind me to teach full time at the university. I just don't have the motivation to dedicate a handfull of years towards a PhD.
Marja....and I find that really really sad. When was the last time you heard someone say they wanted to get into politics? It used to be a respected career. Now, it's tainted and full of people who seem to lose their integrity. They keep asking why more women dont' jump on board and run for elected office.....well, what woman would want to jump into the foray where question period is just a free for all name calling fest. I think NZ is set up the same way as Canada.....our system is based on the UK model.
Past experiences trigger reactions
Past experiences thrust us into the familiar dance steps
Past experiences shroud us from new perspectives, from a new way of seeing.
Old wounds refreshed and uncared for seep into the present and are revealed in the kind of decisions we make
....all so very true. This was an excellent and very timely post Dana.
Gypsy....it is food for thought. it makes sense doesn't it? We are a product of our past.
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