I read this last night and sent it along to a couple of friends whom I've shared a few secrets with from time to time..... and whenever I have, they always reply.... "You are beautiful...." So, I share more..... :)
"I have come to believe that by and large the human family all has the same secrets, which are both very telling and very important to tell. They are telling in the sense that they tell what is perhaps the central paradox of our condition—that what we hunger for perhaps more than anything else is to be known in our full humanness, and yet that is often just what we also fear more than anything else.
It is important to tell at least from time to time the secret of who we truly and fully are—even if we tell it only to ourselves—because otherwise we run the risk of losing track of who we truly and fully are and little by little come to accept instead the highly edited version which we put forth in hope that the world will find it more acceptable than the real thing. It is important to tell our secrets too because it makes it easier that way to see where we have been in our lives and where we are going.
It also makes it easier for other people to tell us a secret or two of their own, and exchanges like that have a lot to do with what being a family is all about and what being human is all about."
Frederick Buechner.
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Wouldn't it be great if we all just let our guard down and spilled our real-ness knowing our vulnerability was completely recognized and accepted as the mirror of others? Wouldn't it be great that when we spill our real-ness, it precipitated a spilling response from others? Fear would be non-existant. A peaceful heart would be achieved. I'm thinking that this is where true unconditional love dwells....in the spilling of secrets and the non-judgemental acceptance of the truth.
And if by chance we cannot find open acceptance in a person whom we trust explicitly we always have the capacity to Twitter them to the Big Kahuna. I hear He likes to Tweet. :)
"I have come to believe that by and large the human family all has the same secrets, which are both very telling and very important to tell. They are telling in the sense that they tell what is perhaps the central paradox of our condition—that what we hunger for perhaps more than anything else is to be known in our full humanness, and yet that is often just what we also fear more than anything else.
It is important to tell at least from time to time the secret of who we truly and fully are—even if we tell it only to ourselves—because otherwise we run the risk of losing track of who we truly and fully are and little by little come to accept instead the highly edited version which we put forth in hope that the world will find it more acceptable than the real thing. It is important to tell our secrets too because it makes it easier that way to see where we have been in our lives and where we are going.
It also makes it easier for other people to tell us a secret or two of their own, and exchanges like that have a lot to do with what being a family is all about and what being human is all about."
Frederick Buechner.
_________________________
Wouldn't it be great if we all just let our guard down and spilled our real-ness knowing our vulnerability was completely recognized and accepted as the mirror of others? Wouldn't it be great that when we spill our real-ness, it precipitated a spilling response from others? Fear would be non-existant. A peaceful heart would be achieved. I'm thinking that this is where true unconditional love dwells....in the spilling of secrets and the non-judgemental acceptance of the truth.
And if by chance we cannot find open acceptance in a person whom we trust explicitly we always have the capacity to Twitter them to the Big Kahuna. I hear He likes to Tweet. :)
10 comments:
acceptance being the key word there; not many people can accept without judgement, but oh how nice it would be for everyone to just "keep it real"
Nicely said I think I would go mad if I couldn't share some things with people who understand I learned however that what's not in peoples experience they are often unable to even comtemplate
It would be heaven if people just could accept anybody eventhough they have a different opinion, culture anything and still live in peace together
agree with kay
sadly, and all too often, the realness just ends up 'entertainment' for too many... thankfully there are one or to diamonds out there
beautiful post! I'm gonna swipe it and give you credit. :-)
Kay....Sometimes its trial and error to find someone whom you feel that knowing trusting comfort to let it all out without feeling like a jackass. But, when you find one, its divine.
Marja...ME too! Most are surface dwellers and don't want to hear anything beyond the friendly hellos. I had a funny experience yesterday, which happens often where I live. I was in a gas bar/store paying at the cash. The guy behind the counter asked me how I was. I unthinkingly replied..."fine, how are you...?" Well, he was HONEST and said...."I'm really tired right now. It's been a long day." He wasn't complaining or whiney...he was stating a fact. It made me smile and wake up AND change my answer because I wasn't fine. I felt crappy still from my cold and I could hardly hear the guy....so I told him. "Actually...I'm sick and I'm sick of this damn cold.!" And do you know what he said to me mockingly and in good humour? He said..."You know, you should always tell the truth!" It made me laugh which of course put me into a coughing spasm!
Paul....Its shameful and voyeuristic how some react to the realness, especially when one is in need of compassion. Michael Jackson is a clear example of this, but I don't think we have to go any farther than our own backyards.
Thank God for the light reflecting diamonds.... especially the L-5 carat beauties.... the put a sparkle back in one's eyes.
Jen, you may enjoy Frederick Buechner's writings... his words ring true. You can find his body of work if you google his name.
His words do ring true. I'll have to check him out.
I so enjoy your blog!
I want to let you know that your writing is often very inspirational to me and very relatable.
You do such a great job in communicating your thoughts.
I hope you don't mind my using that quote today. I have a link to your blog in my post
It would be lovely.
Sadly, too many have preconceived notions, right or wrong, and not too many know how to open their minds.
But as you say, it is divine when you DO find someone you can just be YOU with.
Warts and all.
That unconditional love ....
I think we are conditioned to not only look at the surface but to show the surface. I think it is true that we are all the same and if we could just be totally honest (open up the garage door so to speak) we would find that this is true. We all want acceptance but in seeking that we lose track of who "WE" really are more often than not.
Jen...thank you! I do love the connections I've made.
Scarletina.... yessirreee.... but one has to be careful or one can get burned, eh? oh, and sometimes secrets are kind of enticing in a strange and mysterious way.
francy girl.... welcome! :) Nothing more hurtful than to be dismissed and not affirmed. those are painful wounds we have all experienced, but definately some more than others. the key is to find the venue and the other humans who we AFFIRM while you do take a peak behind the garage....
It comes down to accepting yourself as a beautiful human being first and foremost....easier said than done when we have all been triggered by rejection on some level. our own garage doors need to be lifted.....even if its just a crack....
Leonard Cohen...."there's a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in ."
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