tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post8513635505691092120..comments2023-12-25T02:46:52.723-04:00Comments on Awareness: entitlementawarenesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-70756266471925355682008-04-25T19:21:00.000-03:002008-04-25T19:21:00.000-03:00I had a close relationship with a Pauper who seeme...I had a close relationship with a Pauper who seemed determined to stay a Pauper. He very much revelled in the victim role and had actually, I believe, exaggerated in his own mind, the real level of original damage in order to sustain his own reality. Sound harsh? You wouldn't believe how many people this man has taken down with him including myself. I was very fortunate that I was able to extricate myself from this person's destructive clutches. You can't help people who enjoy being a victim because you take away the very thing that makes them who they are.<BR/><BR/>Just another view from my own experience.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14339140046788925506noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-55807922519090989772008-04-24T10:14:00.000-03:002008-04-24T10:14:00.000-03:00You know the sense of entitlement to ease and comf...You know the sense of entitlement to ease and comfort extends even to those who are often involved in social justice issues. I meet so many people involved in the type of work that I do that want to help people, but are not interested in justice if it means they actually have to give up anything themselves. Sometimes when I say that real social justice would mean more than writing a bank check for a charitable cause, it would mean that white men (like myself) would abdicate their stranglehold on power and privilege--then I am told that I just meddling. I am shocked at how people talk about doing good as long as it does not interfere with their sense of entitlement. Dana, you really are spot on with this piece. Bravo!Under there...https://www.blogger.com/profile/05545282230364676313noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-90123065816097987822008-04-22T13:02:00.000-03:002008-04-22T13:02:00.000-03:00Shaz......I think it goes something like this........Shaz......I think it goes something like this......God said "Let there be light, and let every family deal with an entitled being in their midst......"<BR/><BR/>Naomi. I completely agree....I know that I have a bit of entitlement in me. It rears it's head when I begin to fudge around with "rules...." and think that they somehow don't apply to me. I mask it as creative thinking, but the impetus is a wee sense of entitlement.....shhhh......dont tell anyone.<BR/><BR/>I also agree that this one doesn't have age restrictions. Some of the most "entitled" Princesses I know are aging and wrinkly!! <BR/><BR/>What seems different to me is the level of parental intervention in areas like education, jobs, relationships etc. It's amazing really.awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-23992705589819753782008-04-22T00:36:00.000-03:002008-04-22T00:36:00.000-03:00A Wonderful Piece, my dear...! You know what is qu...A Wonderful Piece, my dear...! You know what is quite difficult about all this is that almost everyone has some elements that you describe to one degree or another...Some may have one or maybe two in a minor way...Others three, or so....I think it is at epidemic proportions in a way, too....And it is not just this generation....! I surely don't have the answers to this, at all...And I think you are right on the money, as they say, that some people are just soooo very very damaged that there seems to be no way out of this. I do see that this generation coming up, in many ways is worse....There is so much given without learning any responsability that goes along with the gift..PLUS, this inability to have real empathy and care for another is just rampant, too. I find it quite frightening in a way....<BR/>Incidentally, I have heard that song but I cannot say I really know it and I couldn't understand the lyrics...Well, a few words, here and there, but I honestly do not know what the song is about...!<BR/>I wish I did, because I am sure it fits the subject or you wouldn't have provided the link!<BR/><BR/>AND, I'm sure I would find many exotic things in your garden....lol....Especially in Spring and Summer...!OldLady Of The Hillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02458879772193114892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-48164349852908655402008-04-21T22:37:00.000-03:002008-04-21T22:37:00.000-03:00Do we all have one of each in our famikly ? I am s...Do we all have one of each in our famikly ? I am sure there is.I knnow I do and this is an amazing piece of writing for all categories to read. Its funny because this has been a topic in our house lately.Shazhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07042225456244598504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-19999447748404659282008-04-21T21:13:00.000-03:002008-04-21T21:13:00.000-03:00Claudia....that's a very interesting observation a...Claudia....that's a very interesting observation about that damn book. I find it the most navel gazing narcissitic piece of trash to come out in a very long time......I perused it when it was all the rage and couldn't get rid of it fast enough.... The whole concept seem so greedy and manipulative from their moody and so called alluring website to their drooling eagerness to pass on their bloody secret. <BR/>It does smack of entitlement. I had never thought about it that way. thanks. Now I know why it pissed me off so much.<BR/><BR/>Entitled people are lonely arent they? And they seem to bring onto themselves. When someone is so wounded, they can't hurt anymore....they put up such barbed barriers and nastiness that they keep you from loving them. <BR/><BR/>And yet........how do we learn to love the unlovely?awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-76726921439244504822008-04-21T19:45:00.000-03:002008-04-21T19:45:00.000-03:00Canuckguy....i agree. Layla.......any ideas where...Canuckguy....i agree. <BR/><BR/>Layla.......any ideas where i could submit it?<BR/><BR/>I believe we all overdo it with our kids. I've heard many stories from teachers who have been in education for years who can't believe the level of meddling and unnecessary interference.....or of times when the child needed to own up their mistakes etc, only to have someone come up and clean up the mess for them. <BR/>When I was writing this, I was thinking about how sometimes entitlement can lead to serious narcisstic behaviour to a point where it would be classified as a borderline personality disorder. This is a topic I am becoming very familiar with because of the behaviour exhibited by an extended family member. Her "entitlement" is beyond the norm of even a Princess or a Pauper, and now she is a manipulative emotionally stunted drama queen who has no ability to truly feel for others, but has the ability to make it look like the biggest victim on the planet. She has huge abandonment issues, and grew up with very mixed messages. She also has a learning disability which I believe has affected her ability to "see" things as they are. She's always been a couple of degrees off.......<BR/>now...? She is in a place where she has some power for the first time in her life and her real fangs and rage are coming out hurting people who don't deserve the wrath.<BR/><BR/>it too will one day be a NOVEL!!!!! Why, because I am ENTITLED to write it! :)<BR/><BR/>ps. I love that song too.<BR/><BR/>Mark. Love and consistency can help many overcome their past hurts......and can help Princesses be more responsible too. However, there are some who are so wounded.....that one has to be careful how to approach it because of the level of neediness. I know that sounds harsh, but I have learned the hard way.<BR/><BR/>Hi Heather......interesting job....so do they show an attitude about the training? Do they appear to "know it all instead of being thankful for the help?" Thanks for dropping by. :)awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-37857760711602947702008-04-21T19:39:00.000-03:002008-04-21T19:39:00.000-03:00This is a brilliant piece. Really well thought ou...This is a brilliant piece. Really well thought out. I struggle with the entitled - and there are so many of them. The problem is that they convince everyone that THEY deserve so much. <BR/><BR/>And programs like the Secret feed right into them. Every person I know who loves the Secret is an entitled person. ARG!!<BR/><BR/>I definitely grew up as a pauper. And I struggle with it - I do.<BR/><BR/>But I'll tell you. Entitled people are the loneliest people on the planet. I think they are very sad. <BR/><BR/>And me? A pauper knows to be grateful for every tiny luxury. ;)<BR/><BR/>Great work here!Open Grove Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08130539510552780606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-44557572825943643322008-04-21T18:33:00.000-03:002008-04-21T18:33:00.000-03:00this is something I deal with at work all the time...this is something I deal with at work all the time. i work for a large teleservices company as the training manager. We offer one of the better paying jobs with growth potential in an area where people have been paupers for a long time. It can be hard to deal with the "entitlement" attitude. I like to think that we not only teach the trainees how to handle their inbound calls but also useful life skills like dressing appropriately, speaking professionally and holding to expectations but it is a constant uphill battle.Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17547096868820517858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-44004695699034013492008-04-21T18:01:00.000-03:002008-04-21T18:01:00.000-03:00I really like your take on this subject. Yes, thes...I really like your take on this subject. Yes, these people can be difficult to deal with and the learning curve seems to be very high. I do believe that through love anything is possible and that people can and do change. We have to remember that there are many different levels of our journey and whos to say that at one point in our journey we were not in a similar class, learning about the pitfalls of entitlement through experience and here we are today more enligtened in our ways and able to see entiltlement for what it is. Change comes with a love, change is a process, this we must keep sight of.Markhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08237538988856751173noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-60368893995412737232008-04-21T17:33:00.001-03:002008-04-21T17:33:00.001-03:00PS love the song, as you know :)PS love the song, as you know :)Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-30248926786362971782008-04-21T17:33:00.000-03:002008-04-21T17:33:00.000-03:00Where do you plan to submit this article for publi...Where do you plan to submit this article for publishing? As your agent, I think this one needs to get out not just for PR, but because ITS A MESSAGE WE ALL NEED - especially parents.<BR/><BR/>I am a Healing Pauper raising a Prince. Its hard to admit that, but its true, I gave my son the love I never had growing up and somewhere along the line became too permissive. Thankfully I realized it last year when he got in trouble and have been making an effort to be stronger. In my case, I'm weak, fearful and riddled with guilt. Not very good excuses, but at least I recognize them.<BR/><BR/>Everything you said here is so true, I see it everywhere I look among this generation. <BR/><BR/>Hopefully my son will turn out ok (he loves me and respects me and appears to be a good person), but I will feel that its my fault it he doesn't. I love him more than anything but I think I really f'd up as a parent :(Bar L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/11100008292699584336noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-68536419143669759432008-04-21T16:04:00.000-03:002008-04-21T16:04:00.000-03:00In most cases of narcisstic entitlement, blame the...In most cases of narcisstic entitlement, blame the parents.<BR/>You reap what you sow.Canuckguyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00579310885688785580noreply@blogger.com