tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post5721089478632071350..comments2023-12-25T02:46:52.723-04:00Comments on Awareness: abandoned in a sea of messes.....awarenesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-24246678259593487482009-08-19T09:13:38.793-03:002009-08-19T09:13:38.793-03:00Well, I knew you could write. This is so good. I c...Well, I knew you could write. This is so good. I could relate to so much of it. I was nodding my head the entire time. All I can say is : 'When is your book coming out?' I mean, really, you have to do this. You will help so many people come to terms with things. Excellent post, Dana. Really top class!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-71557965069869249402009-08-16T07:47:18.181-03:002009-08-16T07:47:18.181-03:00Thankyou for saying that Dana. I really believe th...Thankyou for saying that Dana. I really believe that there are things going on that I am unaware of and I am being made the scapegoat. It's just sad.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-681336342000542872009-08-15T18:33:45.427-03:002009-08-15T18:33:45.427-03:00Gilly....I will be in touch. xx
Sophie...I can&#...Gilly....I will be in touch. xx<br /><br /><br />Sophie...I can't think of anything more difficult to do than to change our patterns of interacting in order to pull ourselves out of the muck. :) I'm glad you gleaned something out of this piece... i think we can all relate. I plan to use the thoughts captured here in the class I'm teaching this fall.... crisis counselling! The focus is on relationships. So, your feedback is greatly appreciated. thank you.awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-22101579736811503562009-08-15T14:45:44.509-03:002009-08-15T14:45:44.509-03:00This was excellent and well worth the read, very t...This was excellent and well worth the read, very thought provoking! I saw myself here in several places... overreactions, making the same mistakes again and again in choosing partners and relationships, wondering why I did these things. It has taken long and hard inner work in the past couple years to examine my past and my motives so that I can break free of such cycles, and I believe that I am making progress. I think this a course that everyone should take... self-examination and why we do the things we do!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-36982429585462388172009-08-14T15:43:32.950-03:002009-08-14T15:43:32.950-03:00Dana, I will give you feedback, but I need timeto ...Dana, I will give you feedback, but I need timeto read it properly, and then consider what to say! <br /><br />Its a great post, though!Gillyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00322140697547406511noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-35696762679235304442009-08-14T07:42:18.013-03:002009-08-14T07:42:18.013-03:00Marja....thank you...:) I was very surprised when...Marja....thank you...:) I was very surprised when I went looking for this topic on other blogs, and didn't see anything of substance. As I said, I have been reading a lot on these topics. The course I'm teaching in the fall is Crisis Counselling, particularly pertaining to victims of family violence. But, it hit me when reading that we all can relate...we all do feel this in our relationships. <br />Thank you for the link....I will check it out. <br />ps. I'm so glad you're still reading and leaving me comments. I have read the books you have recommended (esp. Coelho's) and they have altered/enhanced my thinking in a big way. xxawarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-75639346980414522182009-08-14T07:37:50.118-03:002009-08-14T07:37:50.118-03:00Gypsy...WE do! We keep making the same mistakes! ...Gypsy...WE do! We keep making the same mistakes! :) I think its because we havent resolved whatever conflict we have from our past relationships. The more apparent example is of a woman who keeps moving into abusive relationships....its not like she wants to be beaten up, but her inner view of herself needs some lovin' :)<br /><br />It is a shattering experience to be the brunt of another person's reaction.....good descriptive word there, because it feels like there is glass inside you that goes into splinters! Know that it had NOTHING to do with you and EVERYTHING to do with whatever crap the other person is dealing with inside. xxawarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-4636610730652682682009-08-14T07:34:25.994-03:002009-08-14T07:34:25.994-03:00Kay...thank you for the feedback on the grammar. :...Kay...thank you for the feedback on the grammar. :) I wrote the darn thing so quickly and re-read it only once knowing I needed to walk away before I rechecked it. I was all over the place with the tenses...! I'll fix it up today. <br /><br />When we take the first cut at reflecting on the whole concept of abandonment, most of us only envision a person walking alone, or a picture of a homeless person sitting alone begging.....something like that. But, when you slip under the surface, it is apparent that we all experience this regularly. I agree. <br />Most of the time it comes out in a dismissal from a shop keeper, or being ignored by a co-worker.....or you walk by someone you know and they don't acknowledge you. Still, they accumulate and they hurt.....especially if we're having one of those days when we are more sensitive to the slights.awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-63378093767763569042009-08-14T07:25:50.855-03:002009-08-14T07:25:50.855-03:00Jen... It's the weirdest feeling isn't it,...Jen... It's the weirdest feeling isn't it, when you react in a way you aren't expecting to...then in hindsight recognizing where it came from? We've all been there. It never seems to be a conscious response. Reflection is the only thing that leads to insight. And the more reflection after those episodes, the more we can alter our reactions next time. <br /><br />It is very scary to nuture ourselves and not rely on someone else. I think women especially are conditioned to seek this out in others, but also to be the nurturer for the men in our lives. We were taught it was the way in which we receive those "love gold stars" :)awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-87844429021970029432009-08-14T05:28:05.964-03:002009-08-14T05:28:05.964-03:00Dana I am completely flabbergasted.
The things I f...Dana I am completely flabbergasted.<br />The things I feel and think are a bit like a fog but you print it out here perfectly and exactly and again I have no words for it. You could have written nearly my story<br />but the reason I think you can is not only because of your perfect insight, your intelligence but also because you are a HSP who are usually psychologists and teachers e.g. on this planet. This encompasses more or less 30 % of the population. The rest are soldiers or workers. It is all explained in the book of Elaine Airon http://www.hsperson.com/<br />I think you are in the upper end<br />and combining this trait with your ability to put things into words<br />puts me in awe<br />I am highly impressed with this post Dana and I won't give up reading your postsMarjahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17458942200244031009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-2308749552776518952009-08-14T04:53:25.023-03:002009-08-14T04:53:25.023-03:00Wow Dana...there is a lot here to take in. I think...Wow Dana...there is a lot here to take in. I think I may need to read it a couple more times to really get to the bare bones of it. That btw, is a reflection on my concentration difficulties, not your writing. <br /> <br /><br />What you say here makes a lot of sense though and I think many of us tend to keep making the same mistakes over and over again.<br /><br /><br />One thing that definitely struck me and almost kicked me in the guts was these words........<br /><br /><b><i>Have you found yourself completely overreacting to a comment or a situation and then end up dumbfounded by your own response, be it verbal or behavioural? It happens all the time.</i></b> <br /><br /><br />I didn't experience this but only two days ago I was on the receiving end of someone who did. To say I am shattered beyond words is an understatement.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-65636829048374521892009-08-14T04:39:59.349-03:002009-08-14T04:39:59.349-03:00Wow! At first, my thoughts on abandonment was sim...Wow! At first, my thoughts on abandonment was simply: "Who has not been abandoned? Or abandoned someone/thing else? Over and over we experience this, in our daily life" <br /><br />But then I read what you have to write, you want criticism, I can only say some grammitical errors, but other than that, I jumped right in and went for a swim, relating, understanding, and wondering....'how is it that they know me? us?' <br /><br />Wonderfully powerful writing here, I would *hope all could relate :)Kayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17353317664100788614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-4454436934231572782009-08-14T00:30:03.794-03:002009-08-14T00:30:03.794-03:00oh my.
Yet again, you are speaking my language.
P...oh my.<br />Yet again, you are speaking my language.<br /><br />Part one:<br />I had an over-reaction recently. I was being yelled at by a very assertive woman. I flashed back (not consciously) to my step-mother yelling at me. I started sweating and my mind went blank. I just froze.<br /><br />I was flooded with fear, irrational fear.<br /><br />Age regression.<br />It was scary.<br /><br />Part two: Nururing that inner child YOURSELF, instead of looking to someone / something else to do it is the most difficult thing I've ever done. <br /><br />Great post!!<br />You do such a good job of being relatable and understandable. (is that a word?? ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com