tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post1487300723088194879..comments2023-12-25T02:46:52.723-04:00Comments on Awareness: for or against the flow....awarenesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-9431205140497261562009-03-10T08:56:00.000-03:002009-03-10T08:56:00.000-03:00Smile, take care on the road.. and catch up soon.....Smile, take care on the road.. and catch up soon...<BR/><BR/>'Teach em to fish!' Id be happy if they'd just pick there towels up off the floor...<BR/><BR/>but know what you mean... catch ya...xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-44327495147409018232009-03-10T08:52:00.000-03:002009-03-10T08:52:00.000-03:00Systems are set up to feed learned helplessness......Systems are set up to feed learned helplessness....as are families which feed a sense of entitlement....as are families which live in the culture of dependency. <BR/><BR/>I can't stand it. we do nothing to help make shifts in attitude and action if we don't help them face the music that life is what you make of it.<BR/><BR/>i have taught many "life skills" courses in the past....great training ground to glean this and to learn the importance of promotiong emotional literacy. <BR/><BR/>oh, i wish we could chat on this all day, but i must pack the van and head EAST to Home!! We are on the road for a couple of days, but will be able to "check in" tonight wherever we end up stopping. <BR/><BR/>cheers A'Jay..... <BR/><BR/>ps. teach them how to fish....!!awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-83980692969728559182009-03-10T08:45:00.000-03:002009-03-10T08:45:00.000-03:00The clients I struggle with are the victims and th...The clients I struggle with are the victims and those with learned helplessness... its not a trait I accept in myself and not one I deal with (inwardly) in others well.<BR/><BR/>Teaching my kids (and thats either gender) that its disempowering to take on that role, is often a ground breaking concept... and when they 'get it' tis awesome. Whether it is victim status earnt by gender or race (the two main ones in my job) the first step is to understand life owes you nothing...<BR/><BR/>The trouble is its learnt behaviour and has gotten their needs met. Whether from parents or society.<BR/><BR/>God thoughs talk shows,You are 100% right, I havnt watched them in years (we dont have a tv by choice) but boy do I remember them. Feeding on others misery pandering to the victim, all for ratings...grrrrAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-84134674459402081232009-03-10T08:33:00.000-03:002009-03-10T08:33:00.000-03:00A'Jay...oh, I hear you! I've got all the patience...A'Jay...oh, I hear you! I've got all the patience in the world for someone in true need, but if I am confronted with a someone too whiney to DO SOMETHING besides be a "victim" ? I am the first to bark out "suck it up...MOVE on!"<BR/><BR/>Is what you're doing getting you what you want???? <BR/><BR/>How is THAT helping you?<BR/><BR/>I blame talk shows and the Queen of them....Oprah. Though she has changed her tune over the years, the TV media (oh and the freaking Radio talk shows) thrive on victims....ever reality shows do...<BR/><BR/>Yes, my place of work also has many "level the playing field" policies. they bite.awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-13907970581911062572009-03-10T04:22:00.000-03:002009-03-10T04:22:00.000-03:00Ah ... Fairness.. there is no such concept. Dont g...Ah ... Fairness.. there is no such concept. Dont get me wrong, would be a gorgeous world if their was but fair... no life is not fair. Thats precisely what i teach my work kids, as they cry...'Its not fair!' No its probably not the abusive families, lack of money, resources, death, afflictions of all sorts... not fair in anyones language but the sooner you deal with that, the sooner you move out of victim mode.<BR/><BR/>There is nothing more pitiful than hearing an adult in victim mode bemoaning 'Its not fair'To me its 'Get over it, and get on with it' Harsh? probably to some but it beats being stuck in the 'poor me' role in life.<BR/><BR/>My work industry, even my government puts policies and laws into place4 to make a 'level playing feild' (hate that term)to make life fair, what a croc... <BR/><BR/>Life is unfair, its what you chose to do with it, the attitude you take to whatever life throws at you that gives you character....<BR/><BR/>If people stopped crying in their teacup about the injustices they live under (and im talking middle class, white Australians here) and stand on their own two feet then just maybe they would have a better life...<BR/><BR/>Unfair...laugh, unfair is the Israelis fencing you in and bombing the bjesus out of you... when you live with that it puts the rest into perspective...<BR/><BR/>Yep lifes unfair, suck it up and get on with it I say....<BR/><BR/>I'll step off my soapbox, rant over, laugh, bit of welfare work burn out talking :)<BR/><BR/>Great post chickadee...xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-10272011114536181652009-03-10T02:38:00.000-03:002009-03-10T02:38:00.000-03:00Scarlet...sadly our whole justice system and burea...Scarlet...sadly our whole justice system and bureaucracy is based on a standard of "fairness..." our world revolves around the concept of fairness (or not fair)....we pour more and more laws and standards into place all for the sake of fairness....<BR/><BR/>we get numbed out and twisted up because we continue to try to apply various permutations and ruminatory interpretations of what we believe is fair onto the lives of the citizens.....<BR/><BR/>yes, its an ideal....we have made a sorry ass attempt at using as a reality. <BR/><BR/>can't think of a damn one.<BR/><BR/>want to......but can't....awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-18059178339841988292009-03-10T01:26:00.000-03:002009-03-10T01:26:00.000-03:00As Walker said, what's fair?By who's measurement a...As Walker said, what's fair?<BR/>By who's measurement and standard?<BR/>Mine?<BR/>Yours?<BR/>The Government?<BR/>Which one??<BR/><BR/>There's no real way to judge fairness.<BR/>It's an ideal.<BR/><BR/>"Nothing drives me more crazy than political spin and hypocritical systems. !!!!!!"<BR/>Show me a place that ISN'T!!! lolBlazngScarlethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09240507708999563717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-41838556306130298052009-03-09T12:24:00.000-03:002009-03-09T12:24:00.000-03:00Walker...it's enough to drive one to drink isn't i...Walker...it's enough to drive one to drink isn't it? As long as we have the manufacturing of politically correct rules and misguided political heirarchies, we're frigged on the whole fairness front.<BR/>Nothing drives me more crazy than political spin and hypocritical systems. !!!!!!awarenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06098432781380754899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17192698.post-11391845164355064422009-03-09T12:11:00.000-03:002009-03-09T12:11:00.000-03:00What's fair and whats not?I believe we should all ...What's fair and whats not?<BR/>I believe we should all be equal at the starting gate but in reality we never are.<BR/>My biggest bitch is about this politically correct BS.<BR/><BR/>For example I applied a few years ago for a job that was all phone based but I was refused not because of my abilities but because they wanted visable minorities.<BR/>Personally I think a Canadian is of various colors, nationalities, sex and religions but can someone tell me why it matters if a person is white black yellow male or female old or young.... when you're on the phone?<BR/><BR/>I think there is no such thing as fairness in a democracy or not.<BR/>There will always be those who are above the rules who can manipulate what is fair for their own benefit.<BR/>It's all a hypocracy that we subscribe to when we don't get our way.Walkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15129182819187055533noreply@blogger.com